For individuals ready to stop overriding themselves in the name of connection.
Secure by Design is not about fixing your dating life or learning better strategies.
It is a relational formation process for people who notice themselves self-abandoning, rushing clarity, or overriding internal signals when connection feels uncertain.
We work beneath behavior—at the level of nervous system pacing, attachment awareness, and relational integrity—so connection no longer requires self-betrayal.
We move through three distinct phases of formation:
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Secure by Design is designed for individuals who are able to maintain a baseline level of emotional regulation and stability. This group is not a good fit for those currently experiencing frequent emotional crises, rapid relational shifts, or significant difficulty managing emotional intensity. A steadier internal foundation allows this work to be effective and respectful of the group container.
This group is not designed to support active conditions that require ongoing clinical containment. Individuals who benefit most from Secure by Design are able to observe themselves, tolerate discomfort without acting it out interpersonally, and take responsibility for their internal states within a group setting.
Secure by Design requires consistent attendance, personal reflection between sessions, and a willingness to engage honestly with the material. This is not a drop-in group or a passive listening experience. Participants are expected to show up prepared, present, and willing to do their own internal work over the full 12-week process.
No. This group is designed to strengthen internal regulation and self-leadership, not to provide emotional stabilization through others. Participants are expected to arrive with the capacity to self-soothe, reflect, and stay grounded without relying on the group for reassurance or emotional containment.
Secure by Design moves intentionally and requires patience, reflection, and follow-through. If you are feeling overwhelmed, ambivalent, or unsure about your ability to commit time and attention to this process, it may not be the right fit at this time. Choosing readiness is part of the work.
Applications are reviewed carefully to assess emotional stability, readiness for self-reflection, and fit for a relational formation container. Not all applicants will be accepted, and declining participation is not a judgment — it is a matter of group safety, integrity, and effectiveness.
Split-payment options are available and discussed upon acceptance.
All payments are non-refundable once the program begins to protect the integrity and continuity of the cohort.
Because this is a curated container, we follow a simple three-step process:
Secure connection is not built by trying harder.
It is built by slowing down, staying regulated, and choosing integrity over intensity.
If you are ready to stop auditioning and start relating from clarity,
you are invited to apply.
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